Teaching, Helping and Encouraging Spiritual Growth

The Value of Good Friends

One of the greatest blessings God gives to His children is friends. Every believer needs close Christian friends. Being close to someone with like beliefs allows you to be yourself. Not only can you just be you, and express your true thoughts and feelings without hesitancy or fear of misunderstanding, but a good friend also brings accountability into your life. It’s sort of like God putting that “special” person, or persons into your life that help you deal with life and make right decisions and do the right things. Good Christian friends bring a loving accountability into your life that enhances your walk with God. All believers benefit from having good, close friends who love you and have your best interest in mind.

Christian friends who know you well can ask the uncomfortable questions like, “Are you alright?” “Anything wrong?” “Did you mean to do that?” “We need to talk.” This kind of awareness is a great help to believing friends and God’s way of reaching out to those who might be stumbling in their spiritual walk.

Galatians 6:1-2 NLT Dear brothers and sisters, if another Christian is overcome by some sin, you who are godly should gently and humbly help that person back onto the right path. And be careful not to fall into the same temptation yourself. Share each other’s troubles and problems, and in this way obey the law of Christ.

Holding a fellow believer accountable is one of the most loving things you can do for a wavering brother or sister. God tells you that you are to lovingly, gently and humbly reach out and embrace your friend and help them get back on the right path.

But God makes the point to tell you that before you decide to help a wavering believer, you must be in the right place with God yourself. Otherwise, you become vulnerable to the very same sin that is bringing down your wavering friend.

How do you do this? God says to talk to your wavering friend. Listen carefully and lovingly, without condemnation. You do not need to pile on, or scold them. This is not the pattern God gives us to help a fellow believer get back on the right path. Believe me, the Holy Spirit has already strongly convicted them and they know very well that what they are doing is wrong.

Approach them with kindness, compassion and humility. Lovingly confront their sinful mistakes. Remind them of God’s unending love and the greatest of all sacrifices God made to make forgiveness of sin possible.

Be loving, kind, humble and gentle as you talk to them. Let the Holy Spirit do the convicting. He is the one who can change hearts, not you. Your job is to go to the wavering believer and reach out to them with love.

You may or may not see a change in your friend right away. If your visit does not result in an immediate change do not be discouraged. You have done the part God needs you to do. He will do the rest.

So, make as many good friends in the church as possible. These dear friends are a gift from God to bring you enjoyment, pleasure, loving care and attention and accountability!

Have a great day, and call your best friend and tell them how much you appreciate him or her!

God bless!


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